I’ve had varying
responses to this blog and while I know its going to be awesome (cuz how could
it not be?!?!), I wanted to clarify a bit…I don’t think we all live like slobs,
but I also don’t think we all live in magazine perfect houses…there are
definitely both extremes, and seeing one house in all its forms for an entire
year would likely show that most houses hit all extremes. I’m sure we will see
all sorts of messy on the blog, but we will probably see plenty of clean. Ultimately,
I think that there are much bigger “issues” tied to our homes.
For some reason,
homes have become this thing that has to be perfect, and perfectly maintained,
or we are paralyzed to invite others in…by allowing this to be an insecurity,
we are shutting ourselves out of the awesome community that comes from letting
people “all in” to our world.
If you are too
worried about the crumbs on your counter and dishes in your sink, then you
might miss out on the chance to invite your neighbor in for coffee, or your
friend over for some much needed girl time. I believe wholeheartedly that God
created us to be relational people, and it’s terrible losing out on that because
of our own insecurities and fears.
My goal with this
blog is to lightheartedly share fun pics of our beautifully crazy houses in
their times of good, bad and ugly; but I’ve been pondering why this is such an
issue for many of us. What causes us to panic at the thought of letting people
“in”?! And folks, it has nothing to do with them and everything to do with us.
I received a
compliment a few weeks ago and at the time thought it was sweet, but didn’t
think about it again. Then today a friend mentioned the comment in passing, and
I realized I had overlooked a gem gifted to me that day. Someone had offered me
kind words and insight into his view of me, but I didn’t let it sink in. It hit
me like a load of bricks, that in that moment I had stopped loving myself.
I’m sharing this
with you because, while it isn’t about messy (or not) houses, it really is.
Every thought and perception that I have impacts my view of the world. If I’m
so critical of myself that every thought going through my head is about where
I’m failing and what I can’t do, I never allow myself to experience the gift of
others. Because those critical thoughts about me, turn into fears and
misconceptions about the world around me, and what they must think of me. If
I’m upset with myself for the dirty floors, sticky counters and sink full of
dishes…then I assume the rest of the world is judging me for those messes.
Our thoughts and
hearts are totally “what you put in, is what you get out”. Are you putting in
love and offering grace for all the “messiness” that comes with living;
embracing the awesome person God created you to be!? Because you are awesome!
All of those little quirks and intricacies that make you you, the wonderful
little things that separate you from every other person around you…its all
awesome! If God says that we are a perfect creation, then how can we not love
it!? That means love you! Life is messy though, and that wears on us. I’ve
always been a pretty laid back person…but after the many stresses and setbacks
of life, that laid back person became a tightly wound mess of crazy. All of
that free spiritedness was replaced with disdain for me, the person I have to
live the rest of my life with! All of my failures big and small took place of
genuineness and grace in my life…and I was sure that every person I came across
was judging me. It’s time to let all that go!
So as we embark on
this blog journey, full of fun pictures and all sorts of real in one place,
lets also take a look inward and make sure that we did not become our own worst
critic. Lets not look at these pictures as a marker of how good or bad we are doing…is
my house clean enough, pretty enough, perfect enough…but instead use it as a
reality check that we all have messes (literally and figuratively) and life is
too short to be a wind up toy.
I will probably
spend the rest of my life learning to let go and love me, but I will gladly
work on that if it means that my life is full of authentic and meaningful
relationships. The kind that make your heart soar and make life worth living!
So lets all run to the mirror, look at that beautiful person looking back at us,
and do everything in our power to love on that person!! And the next time
someone compliments you, proudly claim it for the gift that it is!
